Khan left the meeting with Ilman with a heavy mind. He knew he had put the Niqols in front of an impossible decision, and to make things worse, he was also aware that his advice wouldn't help in that situation.
The issue didn't only have to do with Ilman's political power. The Niqols was strong and could probably find alternative ways of employing Khan's methods.
However, the problem stood exactly there. Those were Khan's ways, while Ilman had to abide by his own character, which had nothing to do with destruction incarnate.
It also didn't help that Khan had reached that mindset after years of struggles against a world that seemed to fight against him.
Truthfully, Ilman was probably still closer to Khan's older version, when he would have just sacrificed himself over and over again to avoid making problems for his loved ones.
Still, Khan couldn't ask that of Ilman, either. His hands weren't tied, but it wouldn't be fair. That wasn't what friendship was about.
